Hi there! You may or may not know that last week I was very anxious about an upcoming university exam. Let me update you on it ! It went very well, but I realized how the entirety of my anxiety was towards the mark itself, and nothing else.
University should be more about learning than about marks. And when your focus starts to shift from the first to the second… it’s time to rethink your relationship with school. And that’s exactly what I’m doing.
So I have decided to stop sharing my marks with people. It builds a very toxic comparison culture, and I believe it can be very harmful for everyone. You might compare yourself with others and feel worthless if you get a lower mark than them, reducing all your efforts to a "I didn't do as well as this other person". So I’m trying to change this habit, at least in my little social circle!
Exam outcomes aren't only dependant on your knowledge or effort. You might be feeling sad, excited, happy, anxious, get questions you know very well or get the exact topic you didn't cover: so many variables that might change your overall performance . So: gradings are very limited and do not perfectly reflect the person’s knowledge or value or actual ability. It’s hard to remember and fully embrace this, especially in a society that constantly puts everyone against each others and encourages individualism. But becoming aware of the problem is a good first step.
While sharing my positive marks makes me feel happy and proud, I don’t think it’s worth it: it builds expectations, conflict, comparisons, hostilities, and it can damage your self esteem whenever you get a lower grade and make you fear learning. But learning can save us, really. Don’t give up knowledge for a grade! If marks are taking that spark away from your learning, it's time to put them aside! They're not inherently bad, but if they are causing you stress, taking a step back can be helpful!

Hi! Writing this from my phone at half past midnight. I'm a bit anxious about my next exam (this friday) at university.. it's an oral exam on criminal law. Law is.. quite a vast topic! There are so many things to know. I don't feel like I'm doing enough to prepare for it. But then again, I always feel like that.
I see people studying 3, 4 hours a day, if not 8 or more! And i can barely get one hour done. I know I shouldn't compare myself to others, but sometimes it's tough, especially in academics. It's weighing on me a bit.. 🤔
Tomorrow I'll do my best and keep on studying. But I don't know. I feel very insecure about this exam. I know that if I fail I can just do it again, but.. there is a certain pressure to perform.
And right now I feel guilty. I spent an hour watching videos. And I'm like: "I could have studied in this time". I feel guilty for relaxing, I do. Which makes relaxing not very relaxing! 😝
I'll try to sleep now. Today was a good day, actually. I went out to study with my friend Sel and had a nice bubble tea. Then I saw my bestie again after so many months and met her gf! I had a great time. It's a shame that university anxiety is affecting me like this.
Maybe a good night can help me process all of these emotions ✨ Goodnight everyone!

Hi there! ^^ Yesterday was a day full of emotions. I had recently found out that there was going to be a comix convention nearby, so I improvised a cosplay of Kris from Deltarune. All I did was steal a tshirt (sorry mum), steal some yellow tape (sorry Anna my friend), print out a heart, and put some brown shorts on. Hell yea! I went to the convention with a bunch of friends and we had a great time.
There was a special guest: Flavio Aquilone, one of my favourite voice actors. Ever since I was a child I just had this big admiration for him.. and meeting him was amazing! We talked a bit and it just healed me, somehow. He voiced some pretty cool characters, like Light Yagami from Death Note, Hiccup from Dragon Trainer, and Draco Malfoy from Harry Potter. Me being trans has definitely impacted my relationship with that one saga, to the point where anything HP related has become synonymous of hate to me. But when you hear the actors and the voice actors supporting trans people.. something heals, at least in me. He briefly talked about trans people and it made me feel so safe and accepted.
There we go, I might start to cry now. It was just a healing moment, that's all. He was the kindest and I hope to meet him again one day! He signed me an autograph, which is now nicely displayed in my bedroom :) I'll hold onto it dearly.
At the convention I also bought the cutest Good Omens keychain ever: yes I like keychains a lot. I always have one on me!
Then my friends and I went to drink a nice bubble tea, and later to a friend's house and played Omori together. It was a good day :) And I'm still quite emotional about it all!

Hey! Yesterday was quite a full day: it was both my brother's and my friend Elliot's birthday, which meant double party! I had a great time in both occasions ^^.
While I was at Elliot's, a friend of mine gifted me a cute Michael Jackson keychain, and I made myself a little deltarune-themed bracelet (see pics!). I really like making bracelets, though I don't have many beads myself:
I always steal them from Elliot (sorry LOL!). They're little reminders of things I love, and I'm always happy to wear one.
At night I.. decided to hop on twitch! There's this italian streamer, albeit small, who I've been following for 5 years. It's always fun to watch his streams :) Last night he was playing some games with the viewers, so I joined despite being very tired from the day. So I ended up going to bed at 2 am. Remember what I wrote in the 7/06 entry? That I love to go to bed early? Yeah. I knew this was going to change with summer XD. Why wake up early with all this heat, when you can just stay up at night when the temperature drops? ;D Don't worry, I'll.. fix my sleep schedule. Especially because it's still exam season!!! Which is making me a big anxious, not going to lie. I just.. want to do my best with them. I want to learn everything there is to learn. Which is literally impossible. Might have to set more realistic goals here: to quote Panic! At the Disco, "I set my expectations high, so nothing ever comes out right". Better to keep your feet on the ground, mh? I'm working on it. It can be hard at times. But I must accept my limits, otherwise I'll only be met with disappointment!
On a brighter note.. this sunday I'm going to a cosplay convention with an incredible italian voice actor I cannot wait to meet. I am super excited!!! But I'm not sure as to how I'm going to dress: my Venti cosplay? My Kris cosplay (which is still just an idea and all I have is some yellow tape to put on a green t-shirt)? Who knows!
In the meantime, I'll try to study law XD One week till the exam! Let's go!
Stay safe everyone ^^! xx

Hello! A little update. Yesterday I went to a musical instrument shop with my brother: he wanted to get himself a violin. The seller was very surprised to see a young man randomly deciding to learn the violin during the summer. I was also surprised, but my brother is a bit random like that XD. So I decided to also get myself a little something I'd been wanting forever: a harmonica. Yes! A little harmonica! I wasn't really aware of.. how they worked. Now I'm learning and I'm having plenty of fun (despite my jaw hurting, LOL). I love the sound of it, it's really relaxing and calming. And it just screams "summer" to me. I can imagine being on a hill, under a nice tree, playing the harmonica. But for now I'm only playing it in my bedroom, to spare people's hearing while I try to sound decent.
I'm preparing two exams for the summer session (criminal law and private law!), and they are quite.. big exams! But I'm sure it's going to be worth it: law fascinates me a lot.
Speaking of law, last night I watched "The devil's advocate", a 1997 movie with Keanu Reeves, Al Pacino and Charlize Theron. I loved it! I know some people find it long and over the top, but I quite enjoyed it! I recommend it (but check the trigger warnings for it: it's not for everyone!).

Hi there! Yes! Deltarune chapter 3 and 4 are out! I've finished chapter 3 for now, and what can I say? It was great! I don't know how Toby Fox manages to always keep the quality so high. It's truly remarkable. I will not spoil anything about the new chapters, of course! You're safe here 😝
On thursday I went out with my friends: dined together and went to a high school theatre show, to support a couple of friends. It was a nice night out, though I initally was very reluctant because of the time. As I've mentioned before, I'm one of those people that normally love to go to bed early, at like 10 pm. So, when there are evening events I'm not very excited. But I've been trying to be more flexible about this, and go out a bit later sometimes. Obviously I shouldn't change my entire sleep schedule, but I guess sometimes we can make an exception!
And now that summer's coming up, I will definitely start going to bed later. Nights are the only time you can exist without melting! We'll see how late I'll be going to bed in a couple of weeks.. while still trying to sleep enough. Balanced rest is important!
Tomorrow I'll be waking up at 9 am (earlier than my usual weekend routine) to go to vote. Are you italian? Go vote!!!
Aaaand that's my update for now. Stay safe! xx

Hello! Today marks a big event in my life, one of those that you remember forever: I went to court for my legal name and sex change. Yes, in Italy it works like that: you need a lawyer, you file a request, you go do the hearing and legal proceeding, ect. It does take a bit of time, but it's just how things are currently, so we work with what we have.
Until 2015, trans people in Italy could only change their documents after having had surgery: not any surgery, but one that made you infertile. Which is crazy if you think about it. Trans people (and ANY people) have a right to choose whether to reproduce or not. Luckily in 2015, thanks to the amazing work of Alessandra Gracis, a transgender lawyer, the surgery is not necessary anymore. This opened the door to people that are unsure about surgery, cannot afford it or handle it physically, or simply don't want it. It was a big step in the right direction, but it came a bit late, didn't it? 2015 was basically yesterday. The fight for rights is not over.
The proceeding itself was quite simple! The judge asked me a few questions about my gender journey, and we handed all the papers and psychological evaluations. We were done in about 10 minutes! The request to change documents has to be studied by a group of 3 judges, who will make the decision together. After that, it's a game of patience. You gotta wait one or two months until all the papers are ready, and then you can finally get your ID! This means that by September I'll be fully recognised as a man legally. It's a great achievement for me. I did not pay a single euro for this proceeding: in Italy, if you have less than a certain amount of personal income, you can do your legal proceedings for free. But that amount of money is very low, and excludes the vast majority of the population. This means that for most people changing their names is quite expensive: we're talking thousands of euros. This should not be the case. I mean, changing your name?! Why do we even have to go to COURT for that? Identity should not be a privilege.
Well. I know Italy will not make progress on this soon, but I know that someday we will. We will! We just have to. I have faith in humanity. I know. It's hard to stay positive in this world. But hey. They want us to feel miserable and I won't play by their rules. I'll keep believing in fairness.
I'm grateful for my lawyer, who was the coolest, my mother who accompanied me to court, my friends and family who showed me support, every trans person before me, who made this possible. And myself, for making it this far.

Hi there! Yesterday there was a pride protest in my university city. You can see some pictures I took here! I was wearing an outfit with the colours of the trans flag. It had been a few years since I'd been to a pride event, so I was excited and a bit nervous. The fact that the train we were on just stopped and cancelled its trip half way through was.. nervewracking! But we managed to get on a bus and arrive in Padua, albeit a bit later. Trenitalia always be messing with us XD.
I had a good time with my friends and with strangers. There were incredibly cool people everywhere . It's refreshing to see people expressing themselves freely. Sadly this is not always possible for everyone everyday. But pride is that moment of reclaiming our space in society 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️.
And this is very important right now, especially for trans people everywhere, that are seeing their rights taken away and their countries acting as if they don't exist. Nope: trans people exist, and will continue to.
Let's be extra proud this month, but all year long too!
Never be ashamed of your queerness. It's beautiful!

Hello people! If you had met me in the streets today, you would have seen me like this (see attached picture). So what happened? Nothing big, truly. Just something that disappointed me greatly! Let's get into it.
Today in class the teacher requested that we asked some questions, to make the lesson more.. interactive. But nobody wanted to intervene, given that the environment doesn't always feel that welcoming. So I was like: I'll do it. I'll save the rest of my class. All I need to do is raise my hand and ask a question. So I do. And oh boy. The teacher replies like this: "I will answer your question once you fix your grammar". And I had no idea what I had said wrong. So I just start looking around to see if anyone knew what the teacher meant, and nobody knew. Everyone turned to me, giving me their suggestions of what I could say, but I was just too.. demolished and sad. Schools, universities, classes, they should be safe spaces, where one can speak without fear of judgement. If I do say something wrong, that doesn't mean you should turn it around to make fun of me in front of the class. (Keep in mind that this was not a language class).
But you know what makes this even better? I was right. My grammar in that question was correct. I checked. It's hard for me to imagine myself intervening ever again (unless we talk about some special interest of mine, like Tomb Raider). I hope this won't stop me from raising my hand in other classes. But with this one specifically.. I might just have to take a step back and just process it. So all of this just made me quite sad and disappointed. Will I recover? Of course. As I've said, it's nothing tragic. Still, as someone that a couple of years ago could not leave the house because of anxiety, this is something that hits.
You stay safe, my dear folks. You speak up and say whatever you want, even making a mistake. Maybe you had only slept 3 hours the night before. Maybe you were having a bad day. Maybe you have anxiety. Maybe you just don't care about grammar. You do you. It doesn't matter. Keep your chin up. And I know I'm saying this to myself too. Much love xx

Hi there! You read the title (or maybe didn't, in which case.. read the title): youtube is getting on me.
Just the sheer amount of ignorant content and comments, oh god. And I find it super hard not to reply to people sharing misinformation . It sort of feels like my duty. But is it? No it isn't. How can I, a random guy, save the web from hate, fake news, uninformed takes and plain homotransphobia? I can't. I'm literally just a guy. It can't be my job.
The web is a very weird place in that sense. In real life, if someone was being hateful or saying something clearly wrong, I'd intervene, and that would feel like my duty indeed . But online there's a big difference: you are not in a limited physical space. You're pretty much talking to.. everyone! Millions, billions of people on the web! Internet conversations are much wider than those in real life, and often too big and vast for our brains to process.
There's also the fact that people don't feel the need to filter their opinions online. While irl they might make an effort to sound kind and polite, online they don't care: there's not a "real person" in front of them, just an account. It doesn't hit as much. Empathy struggles on the web, and people are much harsher and more extreme.
Trying to engage in conversations with those people online is.. tough and detrimental to our mental health. And don't get me started on tiktok: that's even worse! Which is why I'm taking a break from both youtube and tiktok, and any social media I'd like to use in case. I'm not a big social media person, I only use youtube and sometimes access tiktok from my pc. That's it. Still, it's taking a toll on me, so I can't just sit here and let it eat me! I need to realise that while the line between real life and online is getting blurrier by the day, they are still two very different places with different rules .
I'll update you. Stay safe and check in with yourself and your time on the web. The internet is cool, but there are certain parts of it which.. aren't so much! Navigate safely. Much love!

Hi! This past week was surely a roller coaster of emotions. I made up with that old friend of mine I mentioned in my 10/05 entry: it was the best choice ever, to finally let go of any grudges and just accept past mistakes. And so I'm quite happy with how things turned out.
I'm glad I waited until now to re-establish our friendship though: I needed time to process everything and grow. Take this as a reminder to be patient with yourself and your journey, but also stay open to the idea that things can indeed get better at one point, and if you feel like it's time to set the record straight, it might be worth considering!
Forgiving (both yourself and someone else) is not easy, and you shouldn't feel guilty if you aren't able to do it in this moment. Maybe one day you will, maybe not. It doesn't make your experience any less valid. Sending a hug!

Hello! I watched a bit of Eurovision this weekend. What can I say? JJ (Austria, aka the winner) was amazing and deserved that win. But Israel got in second place, which was.. unbelievable. Not only was the song average, but come on: it's Israel. And the singer herself said that she agrees with "everything Israel is doing". You know what Israel is doing, right? How tf can you agree with that? There's no place for these outdated and hateful views. I'm disappointed and Eurovision can stop existing if it allows this kind of stuff. No excuse. It's supposed to be a music contest that brings people together, not justifying gen0cide. Simply unbelievable.

(Happy birthday to my friend Marty!) Hello thereee. These past few days have been better! Just found some peace and quiet and patience. University was very demanding of my energy, but I got through this week as well! (Oh, the exam went well if u were wondering. I got.. 29/30. Yeah 💀 We don't talk about that). I had a bit of a moment on wednesday though: I dressed more sporty than usual, and somehow I was feeling incredibly uncomfortable and ugly. It's a style I haven't been wearing a lot, so it just felt out of my comfort zone. But exploring fashion requires you to have days like that: you put an outfit on, and feel like a clown. Now you know that the following time you might want to change something, whether it's the outfit itself or your attitude towards it. I'll say, it wasn't an ugly outfit: a black sweatshirt tucked in some olive green cargo trousers, with a checkered black and white belt, and white converse shoes. I put some thought into it as well. But I just felt.. naked! I usually wear button up shirts, vests, jumpers.. oh, and jeans. I love jeans. They're my favourite type of trousers. So yeah. And on top of everything, I met a person on the train (an old friend with whom I have plenty of history, but we won't get into that here), and I was feeling the ugliest toad on earth. But it's all about self-confidence. I guess I've found something that makes me more confident (shirts and ties), but I still have to work on other type of wear. I can't always be wearing ties, you know? ...OR CAN I? Mh. WELL, I'LL THINK ABOUT IT, OKAY XD. I just want to broaden my horizons a bit. We'll see. I also really like colourful and childish wear, like bright colours and cute prints, and hair pins and kandi bracelets.. But I only wear those when I feel extra confident. Well, I never wear hair pins in public: I have yet to see a man wearing those. It takes courage to express yourself, and I'm still gathering it. Well, I'll update you on my fashionista journey LOL. Stay safe and have some fun with fashion! Lots of love xx

Hello my fellow web surfers. Today was NOT my day at all XD. The exam itself was.. okay?? I think I did well (but I'll find out tomorrow). Though I was unsure about a specific question.. I picked an answer (it was multiple choice), but was unsure, so I changed answer near the end of the test. Aaaand I had picked the right one in the beginning. This made me really sad, but not because I made a mistake (the mark itself isn't that important), but because of WHY i made that mistake. It was caused by my uncertainty, by a lack of esteem and respect for my thoughts and opinions. I had picked an answer, but didn't feel confident enough, for who knows what reason. So why did I do that? Was it the fact that I had only slept 1 hour last night? Was it the anxiety? Was it thoughts about unrequited love and home? Who knows. All I know is that a strong feeling of disappointment came rushing over me. And it's still there. So after this, I went outside and met my other friends, and I told them about it. They.. ignored it, basically. And it's okay, it's not something you gotta read into: they were thinking about other things. Still, it made me feel lonely and misunderstood and invisible, which is something that I've been feeling often lately. We went shopping together, but I was not feeling it, so I decided to say bye and head to the train station to go back home and get some rest.
But hell naw.
There was a train strike going on, so my train was cancelled 💀. I looked for a bus, and it came right past me. But I waited for the following bus, and got in 😎. I finally got home and was able to relax a bit. I was super tense all day long, frowning and just having this very sad look on my face, which was hard to take off. You know what they say. "You're never fully dressed without a smile". That quote makes me feel guilty for being sad. But I realise that's not a healthy way of dealing with it. Right now I'm home, typing on my computer. I'm tired and I have quite a headache. But I survived the day, and that's what matters.
I'd like to share a little thing I do to cope with heavy emotions: I do some temporary tattoos! You know, those kids tattoos that you apply with water? They really help. If you ever struggle regulating your emotions, you could try that! Plus they look cute, so why not? ^^
Hopefully tomorrow won't be as tough. But who knows, it might even get worse. Hey i'm just being realistic here XD. Anyway. Stay safe!!

*this entry has been edited a bit to better protect my privacy

Hey there! I haven't been updating my journal in a while. I've been quite busy with university and overall stressed, so I'm trying my best to stay afloat and calm. It's not always easy, but I think I'm doing a good job! ^^ I don't have any big update. I took a public law exam, which went very well, and I'm happy about it. And tomorrow I have another exam, this time on social psychology. I'm not a big fan of psychology, I have to say. It always seems very.. limited. Humans are incredibly complex and no lecture can explain everything. I guess I have a prejudice when it comes to psychology, and it might stem from my terrible experiences with therapists and psychiatrists. I hope that one day I'll be able to change my mind. But so far, these doctors (and I've changed 7 in total) only gave me insights and advice that even a friend could have given me. So it doesn't feel that groundbreaking.
I remember when I told my therapist that I wanted to go back to school and get my diploma. She told me I shouldn't do it, because I was already too old (I was.. 19 💀) and I wouldn't have been able to socialise. Thank god I didn't listen to her: I made great friends, learnt a lot, graduated with the maximum score and now I'm studying at university!
And there are many other examples I could give, but hey: I don't want this entry to be a rant! Though I guess I do treat journaling like that. I just let my thoughts flow and take me wherever they want. Anyway. Today I had a nice skincare day, to relax a bit. And it helped! I love taking care of my body, it's a special moment where I connect with myself. I might share my skincare routine here one day: feeling like a 2015 makeup guru on youtube. Did you also watch those creators? I'm talking like.. Zoella. Y'ALL REMEMBER ZOELLA?? God. I even had a fanpage about Dan and Phil (who I still watch). Okay i'm going off a tangent here XD
I'm a bit worried for tomorrow's exam: I have very high standards and expectations when it comes to myself. I'm still learning to.. take things easy. It's a long process, and I'll do my best to stay patient and be kind with myself. Lots of things happened lately (too personal to share), so my mind is all over the place. But that's what being human means sometimes. I'll embrace it 💗

Hello! What a day I bought my first e-reader ever (a kobo clara bw) and learnt to solve rubik's cube (using this youtube tutorial)-which btw is SO FUN. My father has always been passionate about rubik's cubes, and has a nice collection of them in different variations. He always insisted I learned how to solve them as a kid, but I just feel too pressured into it, and never tried But today- I don't know why- I suddenly felt like trying to solve it. And.. I managed to do it four times already! ^^ A nice little skill to have, honestly. It's quite relaxing!

(happy birthday to my friend Irene!) Hey there! Ah, it's friday! University has been quite demanding lately, in terms of energy! I'm pushing through though. We're studying private and public law, which is incredibly interesting. You know, I've always been fascinated by how people get together and create governments to try and make things work. It's a noble thing! Of course most politicians are not worthy of that title. But in its pure form, I quite like the idea of law. I guess it can get out of hand pretty quickly easily.. which is why I love preventive measures and papers with the fundamental rights and principles of a certain State, like the Consitution. Ah, what am I saying?! It's almost 11 pm, and you might want to know that I'm the biggest sleeper ever. World record napper. Best tired boy. I usually go to bed at around 9 pm. And my bed routine is as follows: skincare, reading a book in bed, falling asleep. I put my phone away before all of this, because I don't want to check my phone in bed. It gets super easy to just mindlessly scroll.. and it doesn't make me feel good. Bed time is a time to relax, wind down after a long day, take care of oneself. It's a precious moment for me. Which is probably why I don't like partying at night. It just gets my schedule messed up! But don't worry, I do have a social life and sometimes am in fact forced to spend the night out.. XD I'm more of a "let's hang out at 3 pm" person. Yeah, I know. But see, my body wants to sleep at night, and who am I to refuse such a gentle request? So. I'll sleep now. LMAO i don't know what this entry was XD i'll.. talk to you all more soon! Stay safe, much love and good sleep/nap/rest to everyone!

Helloo! Just played Uno (the card game) with my family: I won every round Very proud of that, ahah! Today I was very sleepy, but decided to hang out a bit with my friend Elliot. We had a bubble tea and talked a bit, nothing big! I like this kind of thing, very relaxing and chill. Overall it was a good day! I spent a decent part of it looking at websites: so many people have incredible talent and make the cutest websites. It's lovely to see ^^

hi :) you ever find it hard to move on from someone, even though it's been years? it's not easy to accept how much you miss them and how much love is lacking everywhere. in these moments, i like to indulge in some sadness and then listen to "supreme" by robbie williams, to end on a positive note :)

hello there! march is almost coming to an end (which means my law exam is soon, but let's ignore that). spring has been giving me lots of joy especially PIGEONS. they look happy in the sunlight. i want to buy some seeds to feed them! i live in italy, and some cities here have laws against feeding pigeons. watch me become a criminal, mama (just kidding, i'm kidding, i'll follow the law. maybe). well. it's raining right now, but even when we don't see it, the sun is always there, just behind the clouds! it'll come out soon, so let's appreciate this rain in the meantime.

i have maaany things to talk about actually, but i've been quite busy and sleepy, so i'll update you soon! stay safe mates!

hii! great news: i got the date for my legal name change! it's going to be in june, and i'm so excited! i've been waiting for this moment for years and years.. it's finally here! ^^ today i've started playing tomb raider 2: it's improving my mood quite a bit!

hey ^-^ today i've been feeling better :) played a lot of tomb raider and studied some law. but most importantly: took a nice nap. i was inspired by my cat, the best napper in the world!

hi there! these days haven't been exactly easy. homotransphobic hate is really getting to me.. i'll do my best to stay strong :) Just wish i could live out my life without continuously having to justify it. maybe one day we'll get there. stay safe everyone! xx

hello tonight i do feel a bit sad. there's so much hate everywhere, it really hurts me. but pain isn't always a negative thing: it also has a creative power. collective pain brought about amazing change all throughout history, from the rights of workers, to the ones of women, black people, healthcare, and so much more. i'll do my best to use this pain in the best way possible: it's a telltale sign that love is lacking. and i'll do my part in bringing kindness to the world. much love to anyone struggling today!

finally got my hands on tomb raider I-III remastered! i'm playing it on PC and i'm having so much fun ^^ Lara Croft has always been an inspiration for me

hi and happy international women's day! today is a great day to stop and reflect on the incredible fight women and woman presenting people have been carrying since the dawn of time. the fight is far from over, which is why it's necessary that we stay informed and alert, each doing our part for what is right and just. you can find the report on global gender gap (world economic forum, 2024) here. Much love to everyone!

hello! today i was on the train, and a guy was sitting next to me. he looked like a "maranza" (an italian word for.. a young boy that dresses like a criminal rapper). well, the way he was carrying himself and the outfit made me assume he was someone i needed to be careful around. but what does he do then? he helps an old couple place their luggages on the train, and in doing so he smiles and is super kind. it was such a sweet and lovely gesture, and so unexpected based on his look! it reminded me that even when i try my best to be open minded, i still fall victim to stereotypes and wrong assumptions. i think our society would benefit a lot from a change in the way we view strangers: not as a potential threat, but more as a human we don't know. they might be a billion different things, but always assuming the worst, especially just based on looks, is not the way to go. of course i'm not saying go out and trust every person you see.. but we should pay more attention to our prejudices, even when they are subconscious, and try to make an effort to let people show what they are, instead of having us assuming what they are.

hi there! oh my, the first entry on this website. very exciting. i started learning how to code only yesterday, which means i'm still a beginner (and it's easy to tell). either way, i'm having lots of fun! i was intrigued by the idea of the indie web, a more personal space on the internet, not always linked to money-making or becoming an influencer or anything like that. this is a chill place, a safe space to express yourself. and i like it!